Divorce Mediation Blog

Marital Mediation: Where Does It Hurt?

Thursday, June 28, 2012

We recently talked about university-based programs that promote the health of family-owned businesses. In that blog entry, we cited Ira Bryck, the executive director of the UMass Family Business Center, and his method for determining how his program may help a business family in need: find out first, “where does it hurt?” Mr. Bryck’s methodology is a useful way to conceptualize our role in small and family business mediation. This family doctor-like gateway to diagnosis reminded us of our job in marital mediation.

Marital mediation occurs when clients come to us, not to facilitate a divorce agreement, but to make structural changes in their marriage that will promote continuing their union. It can include a formal agreement to avoid or minimize contention if the marriage, despite the parties’ mutual efforts, ultimately does fail (often called a “post-nuptial” or more recently, a “martial agreement”); but often it does not. And, marital mediation clients would not be in our office unless something hurt!

Sometimes the hurt is painfully obvious but sometimes it is subtler: not necessarily fully or openly known to one or both of the spouses. The knowledge, and hopefully, the mutual acknowledgement of the symptoms of the marital troubles can lead to greater understanding. In turn, this can lead to corrective action that may save a marriage. Like a family business, or the human body, without knowing where pain is, the cure will be equally elusive.

Through “active listening” and facilitated conversation, we aspire to help people become more aware, and more open to deciding for themselves, just what might help.

Get e-mail notifications of new blog posts! Enter email address below.:

Delivered by FeedBurner

other articles

recent posts


Chouteau Levine divorce mediation support orders divorce lawyers alimony law family mediation arbitrators Baseball Arbitration lawyers Same Sex Marriage Levine Dispute Resolution Center LLC traditional negotiations Baseball Players divorce arbitrators health coverage Levine Dispute Resolution Center Massachusetts Lawyers Weekly alimony orders Obamacare COLA family support divorce arbitration alimony Massachusetts Twinkies General term alimony private dispute resolution health insurance Defense of Marriage Act Boston Levine Dispute Resolution alimony reform legislation alimony statute rehabilitative alimony resolve disputes mediation divorce and family law fraud LDRC pre-ARA alimony Massachusetts alimony IRC §2704 divorce arbitrator family law arbitrators high-risk methodology family law mediation family and probate law disputes Act Reforming Alimony in the Commonwealth disputes how baseball arbitration works Major League Baseball Arbitration Self-adjusting alimony orders Levine Dispute Resolutions med-arb divorce judgment conciliation mediations annulment mediator Uniform Arbitration Act medical benefits The Seven Sins of Alimony Matrimonial Arbitration child support divorce agreement family law arbitrator Family Law Arbitration DOMA Massachusetts alimony and child support med/arb Divorce Agreements Massachusetts lawyers lawyer-attended mediation divorce mediator lawyer dispute resolution Alimony Reform Act self-adjusting alimony mediators divorced special master family law divorce mediators SJC separation divorce litigation arbitrator MLB labor agreement Child Support Guidelines facilitated negotiations arbitration Massachusetts divorce mediators Divorce divorce and family law mediators litigation Cohabitation Massachusetts Alimony Reform Act divorce mediations Baseball divorce process